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Let's talk about babies....

This seems to be the center of a lot of conversations around me at the moment. Now, I must be honest with you that my stance on this is constantly changing depending on what movie I watch, being around babies or seeing on Facebook an old friend's status. Sometimes, I desperately want to start expanding our little family of 5 (cats included on that figure). Other times, I think to myself how scary the thought is and how I do not know if I am really ready to shift our entire universe... Bottom line is, I am crazy and do not know what I want... Robby and I will be celebrating our 7 year's together (dating) this weekend and the topic of babies has come up quite often over the years! Today, I just wanted to share with you some of my feelings on this matter.

I know that I am not the only one that has had her "clock" start ticking louder than normal at times....
I just recently had a conversation that proves that I am not the only one!

Friend: EVERYONE GETTING PREGNANT AGAIN! GRRRRRRR.

Me: why are you upset about it?

Friend: I don't know.... I'm excited for her. I guess I am just upset because I am ready for my time to come I'm being a wienie

Me: OK, you are so preaching to the choir here.... 7! SEVEN YEARS! Robby and I have been together and he is still "not ready".... That is life though! You can't live off of someone else's time frame and you cannot compare your situation with anyone else's. Be grateful for the babies (animals included on this) you already have and when the time is right the Lord will bless you with more! Also, think about it, and be honest with yourself, would this be the best time to take on that adventure?

Friend: And this is why i love you. You can take my craziness and make sense from it.

Can't we all relate to her feelings though? I know I can, and that is the only reason I felt like I could give her advise on this topic. I had been there way too many times to count over the years. I have had times where I just felt bored with our lives and thought that it was time to take that next step in our relationship. Robby did not agree, and I would be lying if I said that it did not affect our relationship. Deep down though, I was not sure if that was what I wanted either but I was not about to drop the fight because I believe that it should be a "joint decision". We had to sit down and really talk about our fears, goals and time frames. Once this was done we were able to get on the same page and see each other's side.

After much discussion, we decided together to wait another two years. I will be 26 and Robby will be 28 which just makes more sense for our situation and sounds like the best thing for us. We just have so much that we still want to do and the main thing for me is my career which is still very much in the air...

The truth is, we are just now starting to be in the financial position to be able to enjoy ourselves and live. Heck! We are just now getting to go on our first vacation out of Texas, just the two of us! We need a little more time being able to spend it having fun and being spontaneous.

When the time comes though, I know that the fear is going to subside in both of us and it will be replaced with pure joy and excitement. I do not have a doubt in my mind that Robby will be the best father to those kids. Push-over and absolute spoiler??? Maybe! But nothing short of amazing.... YES! And as for me, I am going to rock that baby bump like there is no tomorrow! :)